Do we really need to have an opinion on everything?

Do you ever feel wrong and bad, or maybe just not smart or important enough, for simply not having an opinion on something?

Last week, I attended a powerful, industry-redefining conference dubbed “the Burning Man for Female Entrepreneurs.” 

Naturally, I wanted to share a bit about this potent experience with my audience.

And you know what happened as soon as I wrote the opening sentence?

I felt pressure.

Like I had to add a comment: What do I think of that name? Do I agree with the comparison?

If I add nothing, people will assume I agree.

But if I do make a comment… it’ll look like I’m judging.

But what if I’m not vibing with the association — while having zero judgment?

I mean, I’ve never even been to Burning Man… How could I have an opinion??

Obviously, no one forced me to take a stance.

But I’m noticing this subtle internal pressure: to have an opinion. To choose a side. Take a stance.

Do you ever feel that too?

The conversations I was having with my friend before going to the conference were already shaped by that tension:

Are we gonna vibe or are we gonna hate it? Will it save us, or is it a scam?

We even recorded a podcast about it before we went.

And we continued recording throughout — sharing thoughts in motion, circling around perspectives, hoping to land somewhere...

Because isn’t that what we’re supposed to do? Have a take?

But what if… we don’t need to have an opinion on everything?

What if we’re allowed to just have an experience?

I had a great one! So many takeaways.

And I’m still here wondering:

Why do I feel like I need to have an opinion? Like I must have some unique, mind-blowing takeaways. A stance. Something impressive to say.

“How was it?” someone DMed me.

“It was good,” I replied.

Did I disappoint them? I wondered. I should probably say mooore...?

But honestly — I didn’t want to pour my half-formed opinions onto anyone. I’m still in the experience. Still receiving. Integrating. Processing.

Do you ever feel this too? This subtle belief that in order to be a leader, an authority figure, you must always have a an opinion?

Push it onto people. Approve or condemn the thing.

STAND FOR SOMETHING. WOMAN!

Really though — do we really need to have an opinion on everything?

Would the Instagram reel expert lose their "authority" if they didn't share their hot take on the Coldplay CEO affair?

Yes, let’s stand for something. But can we stand for something without having to express ourselves about everything all the time?

Can we lead just with our presence?

With our being? Our frequency?

Our calm, regulated nervous system?

Can we be leaders, without needing to be “thought leaders”?

Can we stand for neutrality?

Rather than the incessant polarization?

I don’t have the answer...

And yes — I judge sht all the time.

Oops, the secret is out: I’m human!

But more often than not nowadays, I catch myself in the judgment. I watch it. I let it exist.

And I allow the things that I am judging to exist too.

I think my friend nailed it when she said: “The main thing for us throughout this conference is to stay in our own energy.”

That's it.

Not swept up by the hype.

Not sucked into the anti-hype.

Because they are both reactions.

And reactivity?

That’s not your true self.

It’s not your true answer to a question.

It’s not your magic (because yes, you have that, and you can tap into it when you stop merely reacting to the world, and start sourcing).

It’s just a response to external energy: either be FOR or AGAINST. Pick a side, goddanm it!

So while I don't feel qualified or interested in sharing with you my opinions on the current state of the world...

I do want to stand for something. 

Something that I feel very personally invested in.

Here's what it is:

I stand for self-sourced power. 

I stand for authentic expression — which can mean not expressing yourself on certain topics.

For women finding their own unique essence and flavor of empowerment.

Women taking charge — of their bodies, their families, their lives, and entire industries — from a place of their inherent radiance, not their reactivity to the world.

And I care deeply about this work. If you’re curious about how I got here, listen to episode 31 of Raw, Real & Radiant on Spotify, Apple podcast or YouTube.

And if you’re ready to start dialing up your own radiance, grab my free grounding meditation — a gentle audio that will soothe your nervous system and relax your body in just 20 min, whenever you need it, wherever you are.

Because when we're connected to our Self, we drop the need to constantly react to Other. And that's when your inherent radiance, your unique magic, start shining through. ✨